What Can I Call My Son

Just tonight I called the police on my 28 yr daughter. And my daughter did not go as far as yours did, but I feel for you believe me!! Mine has been very verbally abuse lately and this is NOT how I've raised her. So let down, hurt, tired of crying, tired of her verbal abuse today I truly thought I was going to have a stroke. After working 10 hrs I come home to her disrespect smart A— mouth, I reached my point- I called the police.

The officer gave me details of community help services and said that I will be able to access them and she will report and follow it up for me. It was the first time I felt like someone was batting for my side! She was 12 at the time and much bigger and stronger than me, hard to believe! I have called the police once again on her when she was 13 and tried to call my bluff after a quite destructive episode! The police followed it up again and hooked me into services and gave me support the officer gave me their name again and phone number/email. To me it was a number or email to someone that truly understood what I was going through and I have nothing but praise for the police.

Of my door as she kicks and pounds on it otherwise i can see the bottom corner of my door bend. There are dents, gouges and scratches everywhere. She's destroyed kitchen knives trying to break into my room. She even put a hole in my door so she can put her hand through to unlock it when i took her phone away. She'll unplug the landline when i say i'm calling the police or throw the phone and take the batteries out then block me to get into my room if my cellphone is in there.

When she refuses to go to her room to calm down and follows me, i tell her i'm giving myself a time out. Often the trigger has to do with her phone. The swearing, namecalling and threats are out of control. In my situation, my safety has become a big concern because of her size and age now. She knows i have a bad shoulder and hand.

She will tell me she has leverage because of that! I am all about setting predictable consequences together and consistency. However, now i'm afraid to follow through on those consequences because she gets violent.

Some officers are helpful and some make things worse. Even my daughter has said the police are useless. Most times they just ask if there's a friend she can stay with to give us space. So she goes for a sleepover, then comes home next day still pissed and more angry. Things are still destroyed and the anger hasn't been dealt with. More recently the same cops showed up and this time took her to the hospital for an assessment.

She has ADD for which she refuses to take medication for and ODD diagnosis from when she was in gr 6 and now conduct disorder. Then they told me to come pick her up. The ministry of children and families sent a child support worker to get her and bring her home and stay the night and take her to school the next day. (school is an issue as well. she failed almost everything last year). But with the ministry, they are pretty useless and make things worse because all they care about is that she has a place to live and don't look at the big picture. My 9 year old stepdaughter doesn't refuse to DO her homework, but she has been 'forgetting' it or has flat out lied to me & said she didn't have any, when she hid it in her desk.

When I asked her why she lied (and I think the forgetting was also a lie & that she just left it in her desk so she didn't have to do it), she told me she didn't want to do it. So, I told her that I don't want to do some of the fun things she enjoys if she isn't going to do the things we want her to do. It has only been a week and she's been caught in a few lies already... One evening, he was running around, angry/frustrated looking for another eraser. He was all worked up and SD was calmly sitting on the edge of her bed, humming to herself. If she isn't stressed out or upset over her work not being done, why are YOU?

I walked into the room & told SD that daddy is NOT helping you with your work. There were a couple of days that she took her homework back to school not done & I talked to the teacher. Her teacher said that it's explained in class & she should not need help, she should know what to do. She then lost her recess and did the work in class. After that, she would get it done correctly the first time..

Sometimes with minor corrections, but she'd get it done & want to spend time with dad. While in counseling, she admitted she wasn't doing it right on purpose because it meant dad spent the majority of the evening focused just on her. She didn't seem to care that it was negative attention. He was too frazzled to realize what she was doing & after I pointed it out, he's better at recognizing it. Now, when she comes home and says she has no idea what to do, he knows she wasn't paying attention when the teacher was explaining it. She's had an ongoing problem with talking in class & not paying attention.

It really helps to have good communication with the teacher. If there is a recent dip in phone calls, try to pause before personalizing it. If your child works 50 hours per week and is taking care of a family, they may genuinely struggle to find those moments to pick up the phone. Sometimes, the distance isn't about us. Well, I'm not much in the business of giving advice (who am I?), but I can give you opinion and I'd be interested to see what others think about this. They are meant to show affection and love for someone close to you.

They are a sign of intimacy and closeness. Though the lady at the check out counter at the grocery store called me "honey" the other day, and that felt kinda weird. I get what your saying that some names just feel right. My kids are now teenagers, and I've just started calling them chickens.

Like, c'mon my little chickens, let's get in the car. There's something to be said for respecting the wishes of the mother, but your daughter sounds rigid indeed. She's lucky to have a grandmother around to love her 2 year old, and I think there's also something to be said for the wishes of the grandmother. You raised your daughter and now you're giving more love to the next generation. I say call her whatever terms of endearment you like. Smoking weed or any type of drug, and a curfew at 9pm.

He decided to throw a tantrum and for the first time he punched holes in the wall and became very aggressive. Thankfully my brother in law is a cop and my sister is a social worker so they deal with this type of issues on a daily basis. I followed through with their advice and called the cops for the first time. I did press charges to teach him a lesson.

He will spend about a week in juvenile hall since it was a holiday. I saw him today and he was crying for two hours. Not to mention while he was there he broke a window ended up getting peppered sprayed and got a new vandalism charge. It hurts as a parent to see your child in such a bad place. But it has to be made clear you are the authority and they must respect you. I found this article very helpful, and just know that you are not alone.But do not wait till it's too late, take action asap.

I did call the cops about 4 times in a 3 day period till finally I pressed charges. It wasn't easy but parents must stay consistent. From your past experiences, inspect which category your child falls into. It is possible that the reason your son doesn't call you is that you two are expecting two different frequencies. My first grade teacher called me Jewels because I was shy but a 'gem to have in class' and a lot of my teachers until 7th grade called me that instead of my actual name.

Terms Of Endearment List For Child Because he can be grumpy but loves pie called me space monkey for a while or just sweetiepie. My auntie was nicknamed thumped because she'd sit in a chair on the counter and thump her feet when watching her mom cook. I call her silver lady because of her Halloween cost when I was 3 . I have 4 brothers and learned quickly to give each names so everyone knew I whom I was talking about. The oldest was Brother the second oldest was Monkey my first youngest brother was and still is chubber blubbers, Bubba and Rodeo Clown.

And the youngest was Buddy because by that time their was 6 of us and we ran out of creativity. In 6th grade I got tired of Jewels and started having everyone call me JJ which stands for Jay Jr after my great grandfather. Its the only one that has stuck besides Egg Baby which I've had all my life because I was the baby girl with no hair until she was 3. My favorite has to be Uncle Redneck though because my fairly out spoken great uncle Theodore would call me his favorite little pippy-dancer. I used to dance to a pippy longstocking song on my Nana's record player when I was little with a dresser runner on my head. For further information regarding the status of your benefits, please contact your local county social services/human services agency.

You can locate the address and telephone number for your county social services/human services agency here. Jiggs007 What advise would you give if it was a 16 year old teenage girl who was doing the same thing. In my case she looks the sweetest girl, she could charm anyone for better or worse. She discovered the likes living that dark/racey lifestyle, we even have her reported running away from home 7 times.

She isnt the type to punch holes in the wall... Shes smart enough to make sure she doesnt bring it into the house. Now she has a gangster BF shes been hiding and refuses to give him up.

We feel hopeless and at the same time I'm very worried about out 11 year old who is to nieve to understand anything and not quick enough to catch on. I feel my oldest at some point is going to try and corrupt her sister. We have received threats from her friends, reported to the police with no avail. She is just out of control, but we as parents seem to have no real rights of protection or ability to control our 16 year old.

Calling the police doesnt make her flinch..... I've called the police on her numerous times. She's stolen a neighbors cell phone , my mother's jewelry and money , shoplifter (7-?), stolen money, jewelry and car keys from,me. She's run away twice, has been expelled in abayance twice, for taking pulls to school ands handing them out.

She overdosed herself and another girl on xanax. She filed a false police report against a fellow student for rape. A REAL KID. She destroyed his life, and the detective declined to press charges. He even told me the kid could press charges, but he wasn't going to term the family that. It was a Hispanic family, 1st generation.

I asked if I could press charges against her. Bustling schedules are common reason among grown children not to call their parents. Find out more and discover how to fix it.Not getting any call from your grown son can feel like an estrangement and break your heart. While it is totally understandable that you feel the importance to catch up with your children, sometimes you just don't get enough of it.

It is my impression that the idea of masculinity among young people today is a lot more permissive than what I grew up with. Obvious speculation aside, what I think holds true regardless of whether we'll see a change in the zeitgeist, is that the current masculine norm is inhibiting and harming men. I actually agree with @ dxh about this. It would be like calling your dad, "Old Man".

I'm sure some kids call their fathers "Old Man" with a lot of love, but how did it start? Kiddo has special connotations for you, but it started for a reason only your dad may know. Yet she was fine, polite and hardworking at her job. One night, she was really mad at me, saying she was going to go live somewhere else and trying to call someone in the family.

I told her to give me the phone and she threw it across the room at me, hitting me in the face. There was so much blood that she got scared and called 911. A local officer and a state police officer both responded. I was ok except for a very bloody nose and a purple & black eye. The officers gave my girl a talking to and said if they got called back to our house again, she would be leaving in handcuffs.

She was very quiet and I think their talking to her like that made her realize how her behavior would affect her. She had to go to the juvenile justice office and continue with counseling and her psychiatrist. She will soon graduate from college and studied...

She's not sure exactly what she wants to do yet, but she is working still in the food industry at present. I guess my mom was right when she always would say, "This too shall pass." We all laugh about it now, since my girl actually called the police on herself back then. Secondly, as my second and last child, our son is the baby of the family. And if parents are being honest, we do tend to treat our babies a little differently. They often are, for a number of reasons, let off the hook more often for transgressions and are allowed, and sometimes even encouraged, to not act their age.

I'm sure my older siblings would agree with this self-assessment. My son had been repeatedly allowed to slack off on certain tasks during his high school years as well, something that I looked back on with more than a little regret. If you would like to discuss the CalFresh Program in more detail with program staff and/or to find out how to apply for benefits, please contact your county office. The spectrum and rescue their child from the consequences. As with most situations, the most effective response tends to fall somewhere in the middle. When kids are involved in the legal system, we find that it tends to be most effective when parents exhibit "responsible love".